“If you would win a man to your cause, first convince him you are his sincere friend.” Abraham Lincoln
I actually have a major problem with that statement now: It suggests that we are striving to be liked by the prospect before he/she will buy, and actually, all of that is a complete nonsense today. They may like you, but will they respect you in the morning?
Unfortunately, as I have said before, most salespeople assume that the opposite of “like” is “dislike” when in reality, the opposite is “ambivalence”
Prospects do not need or want to be our friends – certainly initially – all they want is a solution that meets what I simplistically call “the five rights” That is the right solution, at the right price, delivered in the right way, at the right time, to the right place.
But, and this is a very big BUT, we mustn’t confuse popularity with the need to demonstrate and develop empathy …
Nowhere is this truer than in selling, where you are trying to persuade another -often a stranger, to make a decision they may not even have considered prior to your meeting.
The buyer-seller situation – like any human contact – is an exercise in human relations: the interplay, cause and effect of behaviour by two or more people on each other. In the buyer-seller situation, the seller must be responsible for shaping mutual behaviour.
What’s the difference between human nature and human relations?
● Human nature is the instinctive behaviour that governs action concerned with the self and with self-interest.
● Human relations are concerned with how we think and act in terms of other’s interests.
Successful selling demands that human relations be dominant over human nature.
Selling is not something a salesperson does to a prospect. Selling is something you do with the prospect in a process of discovery and interaction – human relations at work.
The greatest barrier to success in this process is the “Egocentric Predicament”
This consists of being overly and unnecessarily concerned with self.
Our ability to be perceptive and concerned about others is inversely proportionate to our self-concern.
When self gets unnecessarily in the way, the fruitful cycle of good human relations stops producing.
The key to understanding and accepting others is to first understand and accept oneself – starting with the realization that, rather than strive for an unattainable “I should be” image, we should settle for our real self as “I am” – accepting shortcomings along with strengths.
The following points provide a practical answer to the “I am” versus “I should be” conflict.
Recognise it – and recognise that its source is rooted in the views of others.
Either (a) accept your “I am” image or (b) decide on attainable, constructive steps to achieve “I should be” in the future.
Our behaviour is a reflection of our attitudes; and our attitudes grow out of our values. Each is an integral part of the other.
Do your life values make it easy for you to put the other person’s interests first?
Sincerity is a much-used word in relation to selling. Integrity is a kindred word. Integrity implies a consistent kind of honesty: acting outwardly the way you truly feel inwardly. That’s why sound values are so important to your success with others.
Do remember: “People buy our product not so much because they understand the product… but because they feel that we understand them.”
There are many effective ways of doing this: The best way to create this kind of buying climate is to “transmit on their frequency.” This opens their mind to you…makes them willing – and hopefully, eager – to listen.
A sincere, specific compliment on a point of real meaning to them gets the other person talking about things of interest to them. It opens doors.
“Before I sell my prospect what my prospect buys, I must first see my prospect as they see themselves.”
This has never been truer or more important than it is today.
In Summary:
Empathy is the magical word in the lexicon of human relations. It means feeling as the other person feels, not just with them. It means putting yourself in their shoes and shaping your attitudes accordingly.
Beyond getting the order, the plus factor in selling is to make people look good in their own eyes and in the eyes of others. Rather than sell to them, we help them buy.
We do this best by building their self-image. This helps them grow. And as we help others grow, we grow.
To do this, we must be open and honest – this is the essence of good human relations.
These concepts are applicable to every facet of our lives and in selling; they pave the way to the truest and most fruitful success.
by Jonathan Farrington
http://www.thejfblogit.co.uk/
I actually have a major problem with that statement now: It suggests that we are striving to be liked by the prospect before he/she will buy, and actually, all of that is a complete nonsense today. They may like you, but will they respect you in the morning?
Unfortunately, as I have said before, most salespeople assume that the opposite of “like” is “dislike” when in reality, the opposite is “ambivalence”
Prospects do not need or want to be our friends – certainly initially – all they want is a solution that meets what I simplistically call “the five rights” That is the right solution, at the right price, delivered in the right way, at the right time, to the right place.
But, and this is a very big BUT, we mustn’t confuse popularity with the need to demonstrate and develop empathy …
Nowhere is this truer than in selling, where you are trying to persuade another -often a stranger, to make a decision they may not even have considered prior to your meeting.
The buyer-seller situation – like any human contact – is an exercise in human relations: the interplay, cause and effect of behaviour by two or more people on each other. In the buyer-seller situation, the seller must be responsible for shaping mutual behaviour.
What’s the difference between human nature and human relations?
● Human nature is the instinctive behaviour that governs action concerned with the self and with self-interest.
● Human relations are concerned with how we think and act in terms of other’s interests.
Successful selling demands that human relations be dominant over human nature.
Selling is not something a salesperson does to a prospect. Selling is something you do with the prospect in a process of discovery and interaction – human relations at work.
The greatest barrier to success in this process is the “Egocentric Predicament”
This consists of being overly and unnecessarily concerned with self.
Our ability to be perceptive and concerned about others is inversely proportionate to our self-concern.
When self gets unnecessarily in the way, the fruitful cycle of good human relations stops producing.
The key to understanding and accepting others is to first understand and accept oneself – starting with the realization that, rather than strive for an unattainable “I should be” image, we should settle for our real self as “I am” – accepting shortcomings along with strengths.
The following points provide a practical answer to the “I am” versus “I should be” conflict.
Recognise it – and recognise that its source is rooted in the views of others.
Either (a) accept your “I am” image or (b) decide on attainable, constructive steps to achieve “I should be” in the future.
Our behaviour is a reflection of our attitudes; and our attitudes grow out of our values. Each is an integral part of the other.
Do your life values make it easy for you to put the other person’s interests first?
Sincerity is a much-used word in relation to selling. Integrity is a kindred word. Integrity implies a consistent kind of honesty: acting outwardly the way you truly feel inwardly. That’s why sound values are so important to your success with others.
Do remember: “People buy our product not so much because they understand the product… but because they feel that we understand them.”
There are many effective ways of doing this: The best way to create this kind of buying climate is to “transmit on their frequency.” This opens their mind to you…makes them willing – and hopefully, eager – to listen.
A sincere, specific compliment on a point of real meaning to them gets the other person talking about things of interest to them. It opens doors.
“Before I sell my prospect what my prospect buys, I must first see my prospect as they see themselves.”
This has never been truer or more important than it is today.
In Summary:
Empathy is the magical word in the lexicon of human relations. It means feeling as the other person feels, not just with them. It means putting yourself in their shoes and shaping your attitudes accordingly.
Beyond getting the order, the plus factor in selling is to make people look good in their own eyes and in the eyes of others. Rather than sell to them, we help them buy.
We do this best by building their self-image. This helps them grow. And as we help others grow, we grow.
To do this, we must be open and honest – this is the essence of good human relations.
These concepts are applicable to every facet of our lives and in selling; they pave the way to the truest and most fruitful success.
by Jonathan Farrington
http://www.thejfblogit.co.uk/
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